14 October 2008

A thought

I went on a cleaning spree while I was off the past couple of weeks. In sorting through one closet I found a bunch of cards Amy and I exchanged over the years. One - from back in college - had one of my favorite quotes on the back.

For all the knowledge that we will never succeed in the work of our lives, we must continue to choose to continue. For all the frustrations and fears that each of us has and will have in our short time, we must choose to pursue to the end of choosing the best we know for each other, and in that choosing, long and late, we will connect with each other.

-- A. Bartlett Giamatti

Seems fitting these days, in many ways at work and in politics, no?

12 October 2008

Jasper's namesake

My mom flew in today (more pics on that to come; meanwhile, suffice to say she can't quit telling us she's in love with her grandson) and brought this picture of Jasper's namesake - Jasper Newton Prince Jr. (March 4, 1881-July 11, 1918). He is our Jasper's great-great grandfather on my father's side.

You can see from the markings at the top that the original, which hangs in my parents' house, is an oval-shaped print. And the line running through his hat shows how old it is because that's where the picture broke apart when they took it out of the frame years ago to make a copy.

I suppose in everyone's childhood homes hangs a long-gone relative's portrait from which, you'd swear, the eyes followed you when you got up in the night for a snack or to use the bathroom or maybe even to sneak out. This was that picture in my house growing up.

The hat.

The cigarette.

The buttoned-all-the-way-up shirt.

I mean, when you're about 13 years old, you think anyone who got their portrait made with a cigarette dangling from his lips, clearly, was a man not to be messed with -- much less to do mischief under the nose of in the dark of night. It's only tonight, so many years later, that I noticed for the first time the doorway or whatever that is over his shoulder. As a kid, I never -- ever -- managed to get past the face. As far as I was concerned, there was nothing but the face.

I wrote a little about Jasper Junior -- and his wife, whom I trace my Choctaw heritage back to -- in 2004. Here's the related passage, which gives a little more background on the man and his life:

Eliza Walker, my great-grandmother, is the bedrock of what I've always known to be my Choctaw ancestry.

Eliza, an original Choctaw enrollee who stopped speaking her native language as a child to avoid discrimination, married Jasper Prince Jr., an Irishman, in 1903 after meeting him at a church social. His family disowned him because of the interracial union.

Undaunted, Jasper and Eliza pressed on. They farmed the allotment that was one of the few benefits her roll number offered. They had seven children, and Jasper, planning for his growing family, borrowed against the land. Then he died in 1918 at age 37, leaving his wife with a row of mouths to feed and a stack of bills to pay.

A widow at 31 with children ranging in age from 6 months to 13 years, Eliza lost the land as she struggled to hold her family together. She persevered, though, serving as her brood's unbreakable bond through the highs and lows of the 60 years that followed.

She died in 1981 at age 94, a slight but commanding woman who always was the anchor of stability in the family.

In that portrait I can see some of the qualities that have come down from Jasper to his son Elmer to his sons Randy (my dad) and Darryll (my uncle), then to me and, perhaps, to this new Jasper.

Our Jasper.

Like I said, I could never get past Jasper Newton's face in the portrait as a kid. Now, it's funny, but I can't get past Jasper Elliott's face in front of me today.

I'm entranced by both. Just for different reasons.

11 October 2008

If only...

... more people in OKC were this cool.

10 October 2008

A few more pics (or The grandmothers are clamoring)

Some more pictures as my time off nears its end....

This was from back when we were at the hospital. Jasper likes to get a good foothold while nursing.

Also back at the hospital. The football hold -- as taught in baby class -- a position that is almost guaranteed to soothe the crying baby. Jasper goes for it almost every time.

Amy attempts to give me dirty (and I mean dirty) diaper-changing instructions. Wiley pays more attention that I do.

Jasper really likes to play with his hands. A lot.

All snuggled in to the wrap-carrier-sling-thing for a walk on this cool afternoon day. Within minutes, he's asleep.

Back from the walk, resting on the porch. Jasper sleeps in that pouch. Sleeps hard.

I attempt to soothe Jasper earlier this evening while Wiley's expression suggestions, "Crying? Again?" (Should've used the football hold.)

Then and now: Our friend Dina brought dinner tonight -- capping two weeks of dinners friends have brought us (What great friends! What wonderful food!) and while she and her boys were here they delivered pictures from Amy's baby shower that Dina hosted. I think in this picture Amy is remembering the whole ordeal that is pregnancy.

05 October 2008

Jasper's first week*

A week ago tonight, we got into bed with Amy feeling contractions and thinking it still would be a few days before Jasper would arrive. Tonight, we are all settled at home with both Amy and Jasper next to me alternately sleeping and nursing.

The intervening days have been an exhilarating and exhausting roller coaster of emotions.

Before going into all that, however, here's a picture: Jasper in the car seat -- he really likes the thing -- preparing to leave the hospital (for the first time; more on that later). He's a long, skinny guy, but not as much as this picture suggests.

Let's start with the name: Jasper Elliott Prince. I don't know if folks are just being kind or what, but everyone keeps telling us they love the name. The first name was picked for family history. The middle name was picked for sense of place.

Jasper is the name of both my great and great-great grandfathers on the Prince side. A striking portrait of the junior (born March 4, 1881, died July 11, 1918) resides in my parents' house. Maybe we'll get a copy of it for our own home now. Personally, I like the name because it has a certain older feel, a Midwestern sensibility as my friend Q once said. Plus, I don't think we've met any other Jaspers.

Elliott we originally had in the running for a first name because we like Eli. Went around and around about the spelling. Settled on double l, double t in the end for a couple of reasons, I suppose, though just about any combination would have some symbolic ties to the Northwest -- where our Jasper was born. Elliott Bay is in Seattle, which is where I first thought I'd like to live someday if I ever made it to the Northwest. Eliot Glacier is on Mount Hood, which we see every day -- and I stop to look at as I ride to work. Elliott Smith is one of the musicians from the Northwest whose music I most like (though none of it is exactly happy baby-friendly stuff).


That's Jasper as he looked as I peeked in on him earlier tonight.

Again, about this time last week Amy's water broke and off we went. We'll spare you the gory details, but an epidural around 4 a.m. pierced something it shouldn't have, resulting in what the doctors called a spinal headache. Basically, the botched epidural resulted in spinal fluid leaking, which made her brain ache anytime she was upright. As a result, for most of the time between 4 a.m. Monday and about 4 p.m. Wednesday, she was flat on her back. With her feeling better, we came home Wednesday night only to realize the headache returned -- which meant even more time flat on her back while trying to feed the baby. So back we went to the hospital on Thursday to get what the doctors call a blood patch. They drew blood from her arm and injected it into the same spinal spot used for the epidural. The goal: have the blood, basically, fill the pierced dura and prevent more spinal fluid from leaking, thus ending the headache.

Bottom line: She's a helluva lot tougher than I am or ever will be. In the course of four days she had a giant needle shoved into her spine, gave birth to a nearly nine-pound baby, endured a debilitating headache and then had another giant needle shoved into the same spot in her spine.

She amazes me. As does Jasper, who helped me blog some of this in between feedings tonight.


* Note: Corrected namesake reference to great and great-great -- rather than great-great and great-great-great grandfathers. Sleepy.

30 September 2008

A family picture

Our friend Dina visited tonight and snapped our first family picture while she was here.

More from Jasper-palooza





29 September 2008

Jasper Elliott Prince

Our baby made his long-awaited arrival this morning.



Water broke at 12:30. To the hospital by 12:45. Epidural by 4:15. And out he came at 7:15.

He's a big guy -- 8 lbs., 13 ozs. and 20.5" long.

Whole thing seems like one intensely happy blur. Along with a lot of very sweet cooing and gurgling. Can't believe he's here. He's ours. And he's just stunning.

11 September 2008

Measuring my ride

For months now, I've resisted getting a computer for my bike. This week, however, my friend Q led me to a new find that -- minus measuring the wattage of each pedal stroke or my heartrate -- tells me most of what I'd like to know about my rides. And, better yet for all those naysayers out there, it's on my iPhone. The TrackThing app is pretty damn cool. Here's a couple of screengrabs I clicked after getting home tonight.


The odometer is based on total riding distance today -- my usual length, if this thing is right is just under 14.5 miles, which is pretty much what I expected. The average and max speeds and pace are based on just the ride home. But here's the really cool part...

It charts my speed versus the elevation change over time. The big green spike is the worst hill of my ride. And you can see, it's definitely an urban ride with lots and lots of stop lights.

This morning -- again, if this thing is accurate -- I hit 30 mph on the downhill side of the Interstate Bridge while passing cars stuck in rush hour traffic. I've always wondered how fast I get rolling there, but never knew. Never would've guessed it broke low 20s.

Next up: 40 mph.

08 September 2008

Summer's kiss

I'm off Mondays during college football season, and Amy took the day off to rest as well. We ran a few errands in the morning, including buying a highly-recommended glider rocker for basement baby soothing. She slept most of the afternoon; I worked outside. Got a lot done -- including cutting the grass with my new no-engine hand mower. Nice. Did a little reading as well, from the late David Halberstam's "The Breaks of the Game," which includes this passage that fits the day perfectly:

In late summer the weather in Oregon is lovely, warm and dry, as if conjured up by some Chamber of Commerce to atone for the wetness past. There is a sense that you can see forever, or failing that, at least, and with ease, to the awesome mountains that surround Portland. The air is clear, as if from another, preindustrial, age, since potential polluters fear the power of Oregon's ecologically alert citizenery, and after the long gray months so recently past and so soon to return, it seems a special gift. On days like this it is inconceivable to stay inside, inconceivable to work, and there is a feeling that no business is being transacted in Portland at this moment, that an entire state may be on vacation.

01 September 2008

Bring on baby

Nursery is done, and Lil P, as he's currently know, is nearly done cooking. Some pics while we wait.




Amy did a little artwork for the walls. The rug is one we picked out for the nursery in fall 2006, during our trip to Morocco.

25 August 2008

Buh-bye, 'Bu

Today we sold Amy's old Chevy Malibu, affectionately known as "The 'Bu," which officially makes us a one-car family.

My friend Casey once was going to write an essay about our bonds with our cars. Perhaps this will re-inspire that thought.

We put it on Craigslist on Saturday, had a looker Sunday, closed the deal today. (Man, that was fast.) It was a good little car for us. It's what we drove out to Oregon together, loaded up with her stuff.

On Day One I remember pulling out of her parents' driveway, the car packed tight, everyone in or on the verge of tears, before we headed north on I-35. We drove through to Denver, stopping overnight with our friend Ellen shortly after she broke her back. (Only Ellen would flat-out insist upon having house guests with such an injury.) On Day Two we pressed on through Wyoming -- where the cross winds nearly blew us off the road and did sweep the hat off my head at a gas station -- and stayed the night somewhere in Idaho. Day Three brought us down the Columbia River Gorge and to our rather snazzy apartment -- two balconies, count 'em -- in Tigard.

The three-day drive in that car just after she graduated was, I suppose, the official start of our living together. So perhaps it's fitting that we say farewell to the car as we start a new phase: parenthood.

Of course, as my friend Q said, only in the Portland area (read: not back in the Midwest) would a couple be having a kid and downsizing the number of vehicles they have. Maybe so.

Timing's good on another account, though. Last week was full of rain, which tested my bike-commute commitment. I geared up and slogged through. And it wasn't nearly as bad as I imagined it could be. In fact, I kind of liked it.

Squawk

This flier is on telephone poles all over our neighborhood...

The escapee flies, eh? I'm glad to hear she didn't walk away.

(And I say this with complete empathy -- we'd flip if Wiley ever got lost, of course. Just haven't heard of missing parrots before.)

20 August 2008

Worth a listen

Passed on by my friend Q. The Flaming Lips' Wayne Coyne on what he believes.

28 July 2008

Elsewhere, sort of...

We had some friends over last night for a pre-baby cookout. One of them, Casey, has a photo-a-day blog, and so the evening was well documented. Check it out here. (In the second shot, no, Amy's water didn't break -- though I have fears of it looking something like that; she's extinguishing my underwhelming attempt at a fire in the chiminea.)

Though it's Casey's blog, the pics are by our friend Q.

May our pictures of the baby look so good.

Ty. Sigh.

One of my favorite writers and a fellow Oklahoma native, Hank Stuever, on the housing crisis exemplified. It includes this wonderful paragraph:

All the crying people did for the camera: They cried when television's magic wand touched them, and the hosts always cried, too, while telling the camera how good they felt making the dreams of the sick and wretched owners of substandard tract houses come true. Think of the many tears that were shed on American television over organized closets and new kitchen countertops.

19 July 2008

Pics

I was backing up some data tonight when I came across a few previously-not-downloaded pics... and added a new one for the sake of memories.

The first three from our trip to Cannon Beach back in May. Great weather, great escape, great weekend minus the infamous failure/forgetting to stop at Sonic for the pregnant wife. Wiley is not a fan of the sand, though. Ah, the Civic. Wonder who is driving it -- and getting amazing gas mileage -- now.



And then from tonight.

Seven and a half months and -- it's official -- that button has popped. Gotta document that, right? Even if Wiley is giving me a 'She wouldn't approve' look. She'd kill me if I posted the close up of it, though. Little guy is kicking all the time, which I take as encouragement for us to get a crib, a dresser, and the rest of that nursery together -- pronto.

05 July 2008

Mileage

In my new-found bike geekdom I watched some of the Tour de France's opening stage today. I didn't get up at 5:30 a.m. to catch it live; the countless replays satisfy my curiosity right now. Amid the crashes I shudder to see, the kilometers I struggle to comprehend and the names I shouldn't even try to pronounce, though, it got me to thinking about one thing: mileage.

The guys crazy enough to finish what is one of - if not the - world's toughest sporting event will log 2,175 miles over three weeks with just a couple of days out of the saddle. I, on the other hand, have pulled only about 750 miles total on my LeMond since I started riding in late March/early April. Roughly speaking, in three months I haven't done even half of what they'll do in three weeks.

Really, 750 isn't anything. My friend Craig - he who was kind enough to show me how to actually navigate this commute - cleared 10,000 miles not too long ago. But, nonetheless, I'm proud of my 750. That's about the equivalent of riding from Portland to Salt Lake City. Plus, here's a couple of benefits: not having to buy about 30 gallons of gas and feeling healthier than ever (achy wrist aside).

Onward to my first 1,000 - and more.

29 June 2008

My ride

I've been curious about the length of my bike commute, but I've been hesitant to go spend even more money on a bike computer to calculate that and much more. As my friend Craig said, it only makes you feel antsy about whether you're keeping a good pace.

So today I found MapMyRide.com and calculated my commutes. In the morning, when I ride from our house to the MAX, it's exactly three miles. In the evenings, when I ride straight through from work to home, it's 10.95 miles. So, all told, most days, I'm doing about 14 miles. And I'm toying with the idea of starting to ride all the way in most mornings when the summer weather is so nice. So that'd be, basically, 22 miles a day.

Here's a map of my route home.

Of course, all this was moot since last Tuesday. On the way in that morning, I took a bad spill -- rookie mistake involving the clip-in shoes -- and sprained the holy hell out of my wrist. Got it X-rayed Wednesday and there's no break. It's still sore, but I'm getting back on the Poprad in the morning. I've missed it.

22 June 2008

All baby, all the time...

A few other updates.

The new baby-friendly car....

And the old porch swing I stripped, sanded and refinished so we can swing on it with the little guy this fall. We'll re-hang it later this week.

And, of course, she's still glowing.